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Podcast: LSJ Just Chat Episode 7
Transcript of Podcast – LSJ Just Chat Episode 7
Between Claire Chaffey (CC), Nicole Evans (NE) and Jake Fing (JF)
Date Transcribed – 17 August 2023
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My name is Claire Chaffey and you’re listening to Just Chat. The podcast where we talk to those making and shaping the Law. No politics. No bias. Just chat.
Nicole Evans and Jake Fing are proud members of the legal profession and the LGBTQI plus community. Nicole is Principal Director of Nicole Evans Lawyers in Sydney and a strong advocate for her clients. She has particular expertise in criminal and Family Law cases involving allegations of indecent and sexual assault, domestic violence and same sex parenting matters. Nicole is also the author of Lesbians and the Law, a guidebook for Australian families. Away from the Law, Nicole is an avid cook who has appeared on Come Dine With Me and MasterChef series 1.
Jake is a proud Gamilaraay man from Moree in New South Wales. He is a single father who has just completed a role with Ashurst and is shortly commencing as a Solicitor with Legal Aid. Jake has had a passion for social justice and policies since his early high school years. Since relocating to Sydney to complete his Arts Law degree, Jake has worked with the New South Wales Government and sat on the Board of a number of not-for-profit organisations. Jake believes we can be better humans to each other by being open, accepting and helping others understand our differences. Just a warning to our listeners, this interview was recorded on a new table at the Law Society of New South Wales that happens to be very squeaky. We didn’t have any WD-40 on hand so unfortunately, you’ll hear a few squeaks in the first few minutes of this recording.
So Jake and Nicole, thank you both so much for coming into the Law Society today. Look, I think we might as well jump straight in. Anyone who has ever been to a gay dinner party knows that everyone has to tell their coming out story, so I would absolutely love to start there. Jake, tell me about you because you grew up in a little town called Moree, which for anyone who doesn’t know is a small country town, cotton country, northern New South Wales?
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Yes, northwest New South Wales.
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Tell me about your upbringing in Moree.
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So I moved down to Sydney in 2013. I completed an entry program to get into UNSW, into the Law degree there. Then I didn’t come out until the day before Mardi Gras in 2018. So I was engaged to a female for a number of years and her and I, we’re very much best friends and we did everything together and then we also did some other activities together, and lo and behold we had a baby on the way. We did. So our beautiful little girl she was born in 2014. Then it came to 2017 and something just went wrong along the way and we decided to separate, and it was a few months after that I came out. For me, coming out was telling my Mum, that was the person who, I guess, validated everything I said. Like a lot of my friends knew or they suspected along the way. I sat down one night and I was just in tears and my Mum thought I had done something, like had a broken the Law or something like that. She said, “What’s wrong darling, tell me?” She said, “Is it a girl? Have you gotten a girl pregnant?” I said, “Well no Mum, that’s the thing, I don’t think I ever will get a girl pregnant again”, and she’s, “Oh, okay”. So we just talked about it for a few hours. That for me was coming out. Then from that moment on if anyone asked, “I’m gay, I’ve got a partner, I don’t have a partner”.
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Yes, it is, there’s no hiding for me. My story is actually quite similar to Jake’s actually. So I grew up in the Blue Mountains. It was a very quiet upbringing. I don’t think I ever saw a gay person until I was 16 when my parents took us furniture shopping in Newtown and I saw two men holding hands. I remember saying to my parents at the time, “Why are they holding hands?” They said, “Well they’re gay”. I said, “What does that mean?” I hadn’t seen it on TV and we didn’t know any gay people. So that was sort of my first exposure to it. I think because my upbringing was so quiet, when I turned 18, I couldn’t wait to move into the city. My Dad and Step-Mum lived in North Sydney at the time so we spent weekends down there. But I went to the University at UTS, so I moved into the city. Absolutely loved it. Loved going out at the time, through Uni. But I didn’t come out until I was about 24. So my first job as a Paralegal and Junior Lawyer I was straight still. When I did realise I was gay, I decided to take a break from the Law and that’s when I went into legal recruitment for a couple of years. So at the time I think that was a good opportunity for me to work on the personal side life, not professional. I’d studied so hard at University for so long and then sort of got straight into my first job that I didn’t really have any time for myself. So my coming out story is also very similar to Jake’s that telling my Mum was the biggest deal for me. She was and is the most important person for me growing up but she was very open and accepting and sort of said, “Oh, I already know”, I think she already had a suspicion. I hadn’t had a boyfriend for a while so I think people were starting to wonder what was going on. Actually, when I went into legal recruitment, an employer actually asked me in my interview, “Did I have a boyfriend?”
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Definitely, definitely. I was lucky in the sense that the person who recruited me also identified, so he’s a queer man, and him and I had known each other for few years and he was very protective. He’s also a First Nations man as well. So he was very protective of my identity as an Aboriginal man and also my identity as a gay man. So I was in a sense shielded when I first went in there but after I started and was talking to everyone, I just thought it was the best environment. I was lucky, I didn’t have the commercial side of things, so I worked with the pro bono team and that’s more the sexy area of Law that I like. Everyone has just been so accommodating. No one has questioned my identity if I’ve offered the information freely, that I have a partner, I’m in a same sex relationship, everyone’s just taken and they’ve take it with a grain of salt, it doesn’t affect how they view me in any way. My experience at Ashurst has been really positive. I don’t know if that will always be the case wherever I end up, but at Ashurst they definitely, being gay is not an issue, being part of the LGBT community is not an issue, we welcome that diversity.